TapInfinity Has Gone to the Dogs

TapInfinity has gone to the dog in celebration of the release of my new book, Rescue Me: Tales of Rescuing the Dogs Who Became Our Teachers, Healers, and Always Faithful Friends. 

Rescue Me is a collection of 12 original true stories by 10 contributors. These stories, and the accompanying quotes, highlight the companionship between humans and dogs, and how when we rescue them and make them part of our lives, we really rescue ourselves in return. In addition to raising sensitivity to the plight and needs of homeless dogs, funds from Rescue Me sales benefit non-profit shelters and rescues.

Rescue Me paperback 3D

Get your copy, listen to free audios, and more here.

I wrote Rescue Me because dogs have always been a big part of my life, and have saved me emotionally more than once. They have taught me about unconditional love and living in the moment. With so many homeless dogs (and cats) in need, I had to do something to help. Please join us in giving back to these deserving beings.

  Rescue Me Val Silver quote

Service Dogs

Service dogs can be a real godsend for people with physical and mental disabilities. They can alert them to medical problems, provide comfort, be their eyes and ears, and offer them a better quality of life.These highly trained dogs are required to perform tasks that assist someone with a disability.

Sadly, some people are using a loop hole to call their untrained pet dog a service dog. Then they take that untrained dog to restaurants, on airplanes, shopping etc and this untrained dog does all sorts of UNBELIEVABLE things like going potty, barking, grabbing at food or goods, lunging, snapping at people, and worse biting people.

Service dogs spend many months in very intensive training to ignore any distractions as well as learn how they will service their new owner. You will never see a trainer service dog make any of the mistakes I listed above yet shop owners, airlines, etc are starting to turn away REAL service dogs because someone wanted to break all of the rules.

Here is a list of things service dogs are trained for:

  • Seeing eye dogs not only do they guide their owners, which is huge, they have to be able to pick up dropped items, get their working harness, go potty on command, never touch food not given to them, and remain in a down stay for hours and hours at a time.
  • Hearing dogs are trained to notify their owner (without barking) of any sound that needs to be responded to,  such as doorbell, oven timer, fire and carbon monoxide alarms, alarm clock, etc.
  • Physically disabled assistance dogs are trained to pull a wheel chair, open and close doors, open appliances  such as the refrigerator, oven, dishwasher, washer,  and dryer. They learn to turn on and off lights, and so many more specific skills based on their person’s needs.
  • Seizure and Diabetes alert dogs are trained to smell very slight changes in a person’s body chemistry prior to a seizure or sugar crash and to alert both the person getting ready to have an event and anyone else around that person so that they can be ready for the seizure or medicate the diabetic to stop the event.
  • PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) dogs are trained to detect a panic attack and push into the owner to provide comfort and help reduce the panic attacks, most are trained to find the cell phone and bring it to the owner as well as many other tasks based on each person’s issue.

Then there are therapy dogs like mine and Judy’s dog, Frances (see a Tale of Two Judys in Rescue Me), that are in no way service dogs, but have training to provide comfort to those that find the presence of a dog comforting.

Written by Jean Owen of NJ FixMyDog.org

Advocating for Animals On-line

Do you have a passion for animals? Do you have time on your hands that you would like to use to help others? Have you been looking for a way to give back to others? Then you might be just the person we are looking for.

There is a whole community on the internet using social media, mainly facebook, who are the voices for the voiceless animals. We are comprised of people from all walks of life – retired, ill and cannot work, working folks, rescuers, shelter volunteers, etc. We have a large community of people (thousands of cross posters on 7 continents) who share animals that are in shelters on death row, on streets, tied to poles and left to die, left in homes to starve when people move, missing, stolen, emaciated, dumped, surrendered seniors, horrible shelter conditions, chained, tortured, etc. all over the world. We post and share sick animals, young animals, old animals, blind, deaf, tortured; well, you get the idea. We just share all animals. And, we save lives every single day. Dogs, cats, pigs, horses, birds, any type of animal, have a chance to have a life, thanks to our networking. Those same animals were dying in great numbers before the birth of the internet. We are international.

Here are only a few ways that we, as the animal advocate community use the internet, Facebook being our largest venue, to do our work.

  • The internet has made it possible to rescue as many as an additional million animals per year. There are hundreds of shelters which are invisible to the world and with the use of the internet, our advocates are now able to post pictures and write ups of these animals that are never seen by the public and find rescues and homes for them. There are many shelters that do not allow public access to their animals. How else would those animals be seen and have a chance at life, rather than death? We, have people who go into those shelters and take pictures and post them to give those animals their slim chance at life.
  • Through the use of facebook, we also alert animals’ owners of food recalls and supply important information on food, treats, toys, grooming, obedience training, help for disabilities in pets, news, organizations that can assist, new ideas, etc., etc.
  • Through facebook, we can now share the identities of scammers and animals abusers. We can show pictures and share write ups of those who have and will continue to abuse animals in horrible manners. Abusers are now being caught due to the Face book awareness level. There are many facebook groups  with the specific purpose of getting the word out on abusers and abuse cases to the communities. Thus, abusers are identified faster and people are warned at a much higher rate. This all makes it harder to hide abuse now.
  • We also educate others with news articles, warnings about the use of Craigslist to post animals for homes, etc.
  • There are so many, many shelters out there that are in horrendous conditions filled with neglectful and abusive employees. We are  able to publicize these shelters; our advocates investigate and these shelters are now being exposed.
  • With use of petition sites, abuse petitions are being spread and signed and laws are being changed and abusers being prosecuted – this would never have happened before the internet.
  • We also share missing children and adults. This has helped the community a great deal by making it faster to find someone. Due to this internet exposure, we have seen missing people posted and found the very next day.

No special talent is needed for this volunteer opportunity. If you have some time, a caring for others and internet access – come on over and join our community. We always welcome new voices. You will be helping the world and meeting people from all over the world.  To find groups and pages that interest you, use the search engine of facebook.

Warning – you may get so excited helping others that you may get addicted! This is a work of love and of heart and we would love to have you.

suzie and patt600_3
Written by Patti Mansfield
Read Patti’s story “From Trash to Treasure”
in Rescue Me

Calming Feelings in a Cancer Surgery Scar with EFT

This is one of the three articles posted in Gary Craig’s newsletter several years ago complete with Gary’s intro. Enjoy!

Hi Everyone,

Here’s an unusual use for EFT from Valerie Silver that can be expanded to many other related issues.

Hugs, Gary

Recently I had the pleasure of exchanging services with a local Reiki Master. We used the EFT Tell the Story technique and chopped down two trees in the forest of traumatic memories from abuse by her mother that happened over fifty years ago. She went from tears to laughter (level of intensity of 10 out of 10 to 0) in just a few rounds.

She later showed me a scar from skin cancer surgery two years previously. She mentioned that whenever she used a pendulum over the scar, it would “swing like crazy” and when she would do Reiki on it, the area felt “yucky”, even though it felt good on the rest of her arm.

Intrigued, and hearing Gary’s voice in my head saying “Try it on everything”. I thought, “Why not?” When I contacted her to follow up on her session (still a 0 on a scale of 0 to 10), I asked if she’d like to try an experiment via telephone using EFT for the scar.

The process only took a few minutes. Here’s how it went. First I had her rate her intensity by using both the pendulum and Reiki. The pendulum went crazy and the scar felt weird, like burned skin feels, with Reiki. She rated the intensity at about 3 out of 10. We began the sequence with three rounds of rubbing the sore spot and saying:

Even though I have this scar…

Even though it makes the pendulum swing like crazy…

Even though it feels “yucky” when I do Reiki on it…

We did one round of shortcut tapping, then assessed. The pendulum was quiet on her whole arm and there was still some uncomfortable feeling at the top of the scar with Reiki. We tapped again on the “remaining yucky feeling at the top of the scar”.

When we tested again the pendulum was still quiet and the arm, including the entire scar, felt cool with the Reiki. She then tested again using another pendulum, her metal one that “really goes crazy” and … nothing. “Hmm” and “that’s amazing”. I heard as she tested again. “Amazing”. What else can you say?

Val Silver

Using EFT for Recurring Dreams

This is one of three articles I had originally published in Gary Craig’s newsletter a few years back. Here is article #2, complete with Gary’s intro.

Hi Everyone,

Ever have recurring dreams that you wish would vanish and never show up again? Try Val Silver’s approach.

Hugs, Gary

Over a period of a few weeks I noticed a recurring theme in my dreams. They weren’t necessarily the same dreams, but the idea was the same. So, again thinking of Gary Craig’s reminder to “try it on everything,” I began my experiment.

Using the Movie Technique, I began with the setup phrase and then tapped through as much of the dreams as I could remember, focusing attention on any segments that raised my intensity. If no intensity was obvious, I continued tapping for a few more rounds before moving on. I did not attempt to link these dream events to “reality” but treated them as if they were the reality.

If possible meanings came to mind, I tapped them, but did not turn all my attention to them. For example, in one series of dreams I was lost and couldn’t find my way to class. When I did, the teacher was giving a test and I knew I would fail since this was my first time in that class. One thought was that I couldn’t figure out how to reach my goals or was failing at the life lessons or things I needed to accomplish. I continued tapping through those thoughts and then turned my attention back to the dream.

I would not assume that the first interpretation given those dreams is necessarily the most accurate for that dream. I’ve noticed that as tapping progresses, different interpretations cross through my mind. I let them all be … figuring they each contain a kernel of truth, and settle on the one that feels best. However, this is not the purpose set for myself by doing this work. My purpose is to resolve the issues that these dreams represent, even if I don’t consciously understand what they are. The test of success appears rather simple. The dreams do not recur or “morph” into similar dreams. I am happy to say I haven’t had any of those dreams since using EFT for them.

See also: Tapping with Tunes for Painful Memories and
Calming Feelings in a Cancer Scar with EFT.

Tapping with Tunes – Use Songs and Tapping to Heal Painful Memories

Several years ago I had three EFT articles published in Gary Craig’s Newsletter when his site was active. The articles are now hosted on the new eftuniverse.com site. Each article demonstrates an unusual way that Val uses Emotional Freedom Techniques successfully. Gary’s comments are included in italics with the EFT articles as published.

Hi Everyone,

Val Silver noticed that certain songs would trigger some unwanted emotional responses. So, since the songs ‘tuned her in’ to some emotional issue, she decided to used EFT while they were playing. Success. Very clever.

Hugs, Gary

tapping with tunes piano music Several months ago it dawned on me that whenever certain songs played on the radio, this low feeling would settle over me. For a while I would just try to brush it off, or put it in my “to deal with later file”, but then it occurred to me to take the opportunity to use EFT. Now since I only listen to the radio in the car, and country roads don’t lend themselves to sitting in traffic jams, a little creativity was required.

I decided that if I felt depressed when a song played, I would tap the EFT points with one hand (safety first) while tuning into the music, letting the lyrics and the instrumentals provide the emotional triggers. My job is simply to do the tapping sequence. If the intensity rises or I don’t feel a shift rather quickly I do three rounds of short, fast EFT with setup phrases such as: Even though this somebody done somebody wrong song makes me want to cry…

This works well because a song lasts approximately three minutes so speed is of the essence. Then I resume tapping. I may turn off the radio when the song is over and finish the sequence as needed if time and attention allow. I don’t worry if the work is incomplete because when that song or one like it comes on again, there is a ready opportunity to test my progress and keep tapping.

I do not stray into the causes or related issues even though I am fairly certain of what they are and have already tapped them as completely as presumed possible. I also did not want to dredge things up while I was driving (safety again). Clearly the avenue of music takes the healing to a deeper level, or addresses other aspects that were not otherwise accessible.

However, after a few episodes of doing EFT in this way, I found that sometimes I didn’t even notice when the songs came on or remember what they were. Not only that, but for the first time in a long time I am singing along as I drive and enjoying it, even if those lyrics would have triggered that blue feeling in the not-so-distant past.

Val Silver

Grief, Healing and Meta-Medicine

Spring may be all about new beginnings, but as the trees began budding, and the first brave wildflowers of an early spring bloomed, on that last hot March day, I was faced with an ending.

grief and healing

Louis 2011

My beloved French bulldog, Louis, suddenly succumbed to a large ruptured tumor we didn’t even know he had. One minute he was his normal demanding self, and the next… And even though the loss of an aging loved one is never totally unexpected, it is painful all the same, regardless of the physical form they take in life.

To say this sudden turn of events threw me for a loop would be an understatement.

I felt like I was in shock. My mind didn’t have any time to process the vet’s words before having to make the painful decision to end his suffering. It was the one final act of unselfish love I could do for him. Actually, it was more like the entire experience was happening to me and through me, as if I were caught in some cosmic play, rather than something I had any control over. My husband was literally in the air flying home from Arizona as this was unfolding. Lou and I waited until he got home, and then together my husband and I said goodbye to our companion of 12 years.

For the first few days after losing Lou my brain felt numb. When I tried to make any decision at all it felt like I was putting my foot on the gas of a car in neutral. Nothing would happen except the resistant pressure of an unresponding brain.

One big mistake I made was to fall into a familiar pattern of asking for inner guidance and then not following it. I knew I had to give myself space to process my feelings and wrap my brain around the unfolding of events. It was clear that I needed to take the next two days off from work to come out of shock and give myself time to grieve and heal.

Unfortunately, in my lack of ability to truly think clearly I let myself listen to my husband’s suggestion to go to work instead of staying home moping. That was the worst decision I could have made. I added to my dis-stress by not honoring my needs or listening to my clear inner guidance.

The Disease Process and Meta-medicine

One thought and concern I had during this time was that this stressful event was for me a UDIN moment.

According to the theory of meta-medicine (which has its roots in German New Medicine), a UDIN moment is a stress event that is unexpected, dramatic and isolating. You have no strategy or control over it.

I confess to having limited understanding of meta-medicine, but to the best of my understanding, here are the basics.

At first, these shocks (or UDIN moments) are picked up by the heart. This can change how we interact with other people and things in our world.

Shock also affects the body and brain. When a UDIN moment happens, it literally gets trapped inside an energy ball. This ball gets trapped in a specific location within the brain and the accompanying emotion lodges in a corresponding organ.

Practically every disease is caused by this type of emotional stressful event. Chronic disease is a process caused by repeated stress followed by rest. The slightest reminder triggers it again and again unless and until you do something to heal it.

During the stress phase, your body is trying to solve the problem. In this ‘cold’ phase, you may experience high blood pressure, constipation, insomnia, feeling cold and weight loss.

The rest phase is accompanied by a healing crisis. Don’t rush to circumvent this phase or suppress your symptoms (of course, if you need medical attention, do get it) During the rest phase you may feel very tired or experience headaches, cramps, diarrhea or fever. Your body warms up and repairs.

This happened to me after the long illness and death of my dog Duke. During those months I was stressed out and exhausted. A week after he died I got ‘the flu’.

As odd as it sounds, a heart attack can also occur in the rest phase.

Grieving and Healing

Somehow through the blur of brain fog and grief, I had the presence of mind to consider the impact of what I was experiencing on my long-term health and well-being.

On Friday I did stay home and by Monday was in a much better space. During this time, and the week that followed, I had to give myself permission to let go of ‘shoulds’. I limited my responsibilities to the essentials and what I felt up to. It was an exercise in listening to my mind and body and honoring them.

Another choice I made was not to fall into another old pattern of isolating myself emotionally. I chose to share my emotional vulnerability and get support from others. I found a way to cope by choosing to accept that although Lou was gone in physical form, he was still with me in spirit and energetic essence. I allowed the waves of emotion to move through me instead of judging them and trying to stop them. I breathed deeply, checked in with my heart often, and did a little tapping.

The bottom line was that I could not control what happened to Lou, but I could influence my response and my experience of it. While continuing to honor those moments of missing him and the tears that still flow, I chose to forego another old pattern of letting my life revolve around my loss. I would not want that for my loved ones and I know they would not want that for me. I choose to face loss as all the more reason to make something of the time I have left here and to make my life matter.

I believe these pattern shifts and choices made it possible for me to avoid falling prey to the potential damage of a UDIN moment. Instead of letting this experience close my heart, as my past patterns would have dictated, I allowed it to bring healing on some level and open my heart more. And in that is healing.

Goal Setting: A Positive Start to the New Year

The new year is a time of new beginnings. It is the time to let the past go and look forward to a fresh start. It is also the time when many people make resolutions to change their lives, especially their health, for the better. A resolution is usually a declaration of change, followed by a flurry of activity that soon fizzles. Between start and finish, there is little joy and dogged determination. Even though I like the idea of New Year’s resolutions, there has to be a better way to go about them.

A few weeks ago I received an email that provided one of those stepping stones. I thought, “What a wonderful way to bring closure to last year, and get this year off to a good start!” This email contained questions that encouraged the positive exploration of highlights and challenges of last year, as well as goals questions for this year.

I felt so inspired by those questions that I decided to modify and expand them into a video exercise for you. This exercise focuses on personal well-being, but can be used for any goals you have. I hope the questions and the exercise inspire you to celebrate and learn from your successes and your challenges, and to turn your attention to the future with positive energy and a plan for success.

The video is 10:30 minutes. You will need at least 30 minutes to complete the exercise. Take your time. You’ll be glad you did. Ready? Grab a pen or pencil and some paper and let’s begin…

I would love to hear your answers to some of the questions. What were your highlights from last year? What strengths and habits can you capitalize on this year? What two or three action steps will you commit to this week? How was this experience for you?

Request your complimentary Coaching Consult and to learn more about creating Wellness by Design with Val.

(special thanks to Christian Mickelsen for sending that email)

Why Write My Goal and How Do I Do It?

Dwight Thomas said, “It’s only a dream until you write it down, and then it becomes a goal.”

Why is that?

Researchers found that when a resolution was only voiced or thought, it usually went by the wayside within a week.
If it was written down, there was a much greater chance it was being followed through on even months later.

Writing your goal engages your subconscious mind. It works to attract what you need to make your goal a reality.
Just the act of writing your goal has an element of commitment to it. It is now more real, or tangible.
You can see it. Others can see it. It is no longer just a wish or dream that soon takes flight.

Although writing down your goal can be as simple as saying ‘I’m going to lose 5 pounds’, you’ll get a lot more oomph from
it if you follow a few basis steps. This process is called:

Writing a SMART Goal

S- Specific – Clearly and specifically write down what you want. What is the end result? Write it in present positive words.
If it’s a really big goal, you may want to write subgoals that you’ll achieve in a few weeks or months in addition to your
big goal.
M- Measurable – Is the goal measurable and how will you measure it? Use at least two measures, at least one should be tangible.
A- Achievable – Is it achievable and realistic in the time frame I’ve set?
R- Relevant – Is this goal something I really want, or is it a ‘should’ goal or coming from someone else? Is it meaningful to me?
T- Timeline – When will I achieve this goal? What is my deadline? (Note: timelines can be modified as you go)

Here’s an example of a SMART goal:

This is my present goal. It’s actually a ‘sub-goal’ of my bigger goal to practice holistic self-care in my everyday life so I feel good and look good and have the health and energy to live my life fully and fulfill my dreams.

I achieve and maintain my ideal weight of 140#. I measure my actual weight using the scale once a week and how well my clothes fit from when I used to be at my ideal weight. This goal is definitely achievable as I only have five more
pounds to lose. I used to weigh much less than that when I was younger, but feel this is a healthier, better looking
weight for me now.

I really want to achieve and maintain my ideal weight because I look good and feel good at this weight. I feel attractive when
looking in the mirror. This is also my way of knowing that I am eating appropriate amounts of food. It tells me that most of my food choices are healthy because otherwise I wouldn’t be able to lose and maintain the weight, and I wouldn’t feel good
either. I will achieve this goal within six weeks from today which is July 20th.

Tweak your goal until you feel happy with it and it passes the SMART test.

What is your goal for the next two-to-three months? Be sure to write it down. Share it with us in the comments section. If you already shared a goal as part of the challenge, great! Now I invite you to make it SMART. Putting your goal ‘out there’ makes it real and spurs you to make it a commitment.

I’m really looking forward to reading your goals. Go for it!

Achieving Your Goals and Wellness Challenge

Do you ever feel like this? You know what you need to do to take care of your health. You may even be an expert at preaching it. But you find it’s a lot harder to actually do it.

I know I’m far from alone when it comes to this disconnect between what we know and what we do instead. It’s frustrating, isn’t it?

Well, I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to step up and play an even bigger game when it comes to my wellness.

Now, I admit that overall I do pretty well. I usually get enough sleep, exercise fairly regulary, and mostly use green and non- toxic cleaning and personal care products.

My big battle, however, is my ‘addiction’ to junk food and extra portions. I was raised to associate food and eating (big portions, of course) with love and comfort and rewards. And what about all those starving children?

Yes, I’m willing to take responsibility and change my programming and habits, but it’s proving to be more challenging than I hoped!

This challenge has led me in the direction of exploring how to achieve goals in a big way. I’ve learned how huge a part our unconscious/subconscious plays. Bottom line – it makes or breaks our success. We have to win this ‘inner game’ if we are going to achieve a our goals in any area of life, including health. It is a process, and it is doable.

Thankfully, as you ‘dance’ with your more challenging wellness goals, it’s good to know there are goals you can accomplish easily.

It’s tempting to think these little action steps don’t amount to much. When you put them into practice regularly, they can have a big positive impact on your health in the short – and-long term. Best of all, they require almost no effort or inner game work. Easy success!

That brings us to our new series:

How to Achieve Your Wellness and Life Goals and the Wellness Challenge

My goal for this 20 week series is for all of us, me included, to step up and take control of our health and happiness.

If you’re thinking ‘uh’ and ‘hard work’, shift that thought. Let’s do this together and let’s make it fun!

Here’s what’s happening:

Every two weeks you’ll receive an ezine with tips for achieving your goals. Our focus, of course will be on holistic wellness, but you can apply these strategies to any area of your life.

Each issue includes a wellness challenge. These are relatively simple, easy to implement, and important health tips that when practiced regularly, make a positive impact on your health.

Are you ready to take charge of your health and have some fun?

Your first challenge – Here’s what to do now.

Post a comment below sharing your top 1-3 wellness goals are (stress relief, healthy weight, green living, inner peace, you name it…). Tell us what you’d like to know about achieving your goals in particular and/or goals in general. If you know of ‘no-brainer’ easy ways to improve your health, share those too. They may show up as one of our challenges!

Then, each time you accept a challenge and take the action step, post a comment under the blog entry for that issue. Just follow the link to the blog in the ezine. Each month I’ll put your names in a hat and choose a winner. When you win, you’ll be recognized in the ezine and on the blog, PLUS you’ll receive a downloadable prize!

At the end of this challenge, I’ll draw from the names of all participants for grand prizes. The more challenges you participate in, the more chances you have of winning.

Feel free to invite your family and friends to join in. The more the merrier.

Note: Everyone is welcome to post, but you must be a member (or family member if you share the same email account) to win and receive challenge updates. Not a member yet, join here, it’s free.