Many of us have ‘deserving’ issues that show up in a lot of ways. You may feel unworthy, not good enough, or undeserving. This belief shows up in all areas of life: relationships, finances, love, health, happiness, you name it. Chances are if you feel that way in one area of your life, it’s spilling over into others.
This limiting belief may be tied to teachings that we are no good by nature, and that we deserve and need to be punished for wrongdoings. If you are ill, you may believe that God is punishing you or you are deciding to punish yourself. Maybe both.
Perhaps you believe that because you ate too much, didn’t exercise, or had bad thoughts, that you’re getting the bad result you deserve. Cause and effect, right?
Or maybe you believe that good things like healing are for other people, but not you.
If you suffer from a lot of guilt and shame, it’s likely that you believe you don’t deserve.
Excavating “I Don’t Deserve”
Examining your thoughts, emotions, and self talk is how you excavate your belief patterns.
Say out loud, “I deserve___ (what happened to me, this illness…)” . Then say, “I deserve to get well (be healthy, happy..).” Listen and notice. How true does each statement feel? What’s going on in your body?
Continue excavating. Who used to/or still tells you this? Is it really, truly true? Or was/is someone trying to control and
belittle you? Just because they convinced your child mind to believe it, does that mean your adult mind has to believe it now?
Find the truth within yourself. You do deserve to get well, be happy, and to live an abundant life. How do I know? Because you have the same healing mechanisms in your brain and body as everyone else does.
If you have a religious faith that led you to the belief that you are guilty and don’t deserve, reach for the higher truth.
That is that you know you are a beloved child of the God who says he wants you to have abundant life and joy.
That is the Divine’s will for you. Another name for God is Love. Love is kind, patient, forgiving, encouraging and the highest,
truest vibration there is. And being part of God, that’s who you are in your truest nature.
This idea though, is not about religion. It’s about your worth as a person. Because you exist, you deserve. You don’t have to
buy into the lies you were fed that you don’t. Quantum physics shows that we are all made up of energy. This is the same energy that makes up the entire universe. We are all connected and all that same energy.
You have the same mind body healing potential within you that everyone else has. It’s up to you to change your programming and believe at a subconscious level that you deserve to experience it. Your mind was born knowing that it deserved. It may have been changed to believe otherwise, but the good news is that it can be changed again.
Dear Val,
Thank you for the encouragement and reminder that I can change my programming. I’ve spent my life “believing” that there were many things I didn’t deserve and have reaped the results of that false belief. I understand that reprogramming my self will take time (or should I say I “assume” it will take time) but I’m willing to do whatever it takes to change.
Again, thank you for the affirmation that I do deserve better and that I can change my thinking/believing now…it’s not to late.
Blessings,
Dawn